Kirti Kulhari and Maanvi Gagroo bust myths on women making the first move

Ahead of the busiest time for online dating, Bumble, the women-first social networking app, has announced their new series Dating These Days. An exciting array of popular, notable personalities such as Neena Gupta, Sanya Malhotra, Kirti Kulhari, Sumukhi Suresh, Sushant Divgikar, and Maanvi Gagroo will facilitate meaningful conversations around dating in India. Bumble’s new weekly series features unfiltered conversations highlighting various barriers and challenges to dating and other related hot-topics such as making the first move, body positivity, and familial matrimonial pressure in our dating journeys.

In the latest episode, Rytasha will take both Kirti Kulhari and Maanvi Gagroo on a nostalgic journey the days of their high school life. The two discuss how we are conditioned be afraid of rejection, hence the looming denial about making the first move as a teenager! They also further busted some myths in the episode about deriving validation from the opposite sex, developing your self-worth; and dissociating self from any rejection whatsoever.

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Further talking about dating as a teenager, Maanvi said, “When we are in our formative years, in our teenage years – your interaction with the opposite sex or the same sex, its far stronger, it has a greater influencer, a deeper influencer – I think at that time, we end up putting too much importance, we derive validation only from that – from the opposite sex. It’s also the time when your kind of building your self-esteem and your self-worth. So, they do go all hand in hand. You have to develop your self-esteem, your self-worth and separate yourself from another person. Nobody can just decide your worth.”

Kirti’s conversation focuses on how each one of us should approach rejection without fearing the worst and said, “We need to take a step back and analyse how much impact it actually causes to us before reacting.” She reveals how she made the first move with her husband when she approached him to marry her, something she believe she built only because she decided there was a bolder narrative behind making the first move.

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She iterated, “Everyone’s scared of being judged or being too forward. I also feel that the fear of rejection comes from low self-worth, low self-esteem. Rather than thinking about the other person and the way they are looking at you and what they will think of you, figure all that out as regards yourself. The whole scenario is changing a lot, there is so much more – there are so many girls making choices in their life.”